Recently, for the first time in many years, I thought about my ex-sister-in-law. I have three; this one was the skinniest of the bunch. But I wasn’t thinking of her because of that. Well, not exactly. She popped into my head because I had a flashback about a peculiar habit of hers. When dessert was served, she walked away.
Maybe I would never have noticed her doing this, if not for the video of my son’s first birthday party. (That would be my oldest who is now 22!) My husband and I sat and watched the video over and over, enjoying the cuteness of our rapidly growing baby boy. We heard the regaling chorus of the Birthday Song and watched ourselves move to cut the cake. And we noticed my SIL leave the room.
And one of us, I don’t remember which, made the connection that this was not a one time event. We realized that every time dessert was served at a family gathering, the same thing happened: SIL left the room. Hmm. Curious. Why? We didn’t care. And we didn’t much think about it again.
Until just the other day. When I was driving in my car, a place where random thoughts and epiphanies often pop into my brain. And I thought about her. And her potential calorie saving habit. Because twice in the preceding (Passover/Easter) weekend I had been at family events and both times we had sat around the table for hours, with a variety of desserts in front of us.
There I sat; there sat the sweets. Me. Them. I had a little bit. I sat longer. I had a bit more. I sat longer. More. Longer. Nibble, nibble, nibble. Proximity and temptation united to win out over willpower.
Now, just to clarify, I didn’t really eat EXCESSIVE amounts. There was no bingeing. But, there was clearly a succumbing to temptation that would not have happened had I not sat at that those tables in front of those desserts for all those hours.
But, back to the car, and my thoughts of my SIL, who I hadn’t seen in years. “Aha,” thought I. “SIL would NOT have sat at the table.” She’d not even have stayed in the same room, if possible. Could this have been her strategy all along? Could this be my new strategy?
Sometimes. Maybe. Sometimes not. Because as I think about just walking away, I realize that at some social events, the gathering is really limited to the table. Everyone sits. Captive, almost. As we talk. And visit. But at other times and places, the action is taking place all over and it would be a simple plan to excuse myself from one conversation (at the table) and join another outside hands’ reach of the treats.
So, that’s my new plan. When I can, walk away. When I can’t, sit and stay. But I’m going to do my best to move the temptation as far across the table as I can!
Does your family sit around the table (and dessert) for hours too? How do you handle it? Ever notice any odd habits in family members?
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