All those words have recently been used either by myself and/or in comments from readers to describe the same thing: my goal. And for some of you – your goal. What many of us are striving for in our relationship with food.
I am all about words. Choosing the right one. Saying what I mean. Sometimes it makes a difference. Sometimes not. I am pretty sure that I get caught up in semantics way more than the average person. (Yes, I have both a thesaurus and dictionary bookmarks at the top of my screen.) Maybe this is just one more example of me sweating the small stuff. Or maybe it’s more than that. Maybe there is power in words.
Maybe the words we choose can affect change in us. Maybe changing our words can result in changing our paradigms. Can it be that simple sometimes?
When I said I wanted a normal relationship with food I didn’t mean normal in the sense of “like anyone else.” Fitting in. Conforming to a standard. The word normal made sense in my own mind and described my vision so succinctly to ME, but thanks to some comments, I wonder if that vision and word could benefit from an overhaul. A remodeling. An upgrade. Redefinition of a word that might translate into redefinition of a lifestyle.
I am a control freak. So it makes perfect sense that I would talk about my desire to control food. But maybe that is exactly why I have yet to wrestle free of food’s control of ME. Peace, on the other hand, is not a word that comes to mind for me when I am thinking about my own life. But as I contemplate the word choice of others, I have to wonder if peace is more doable, and even more pleasant, than control. Peace with food. Control of food. Do they sound different to you too?
The thing is that as I struggle to make sense of the words, just writing this post, I realize I don’t know what the perfect word would be. (And maybe “perfect” is a bad word choice too!) Or if it matters. My goal is the same regardless of what I call it. But I can’t get past the notion that I’d rather give power to words than give power to food!
Maybe the words don’t matter. Maybe it is the concept, the paradigm, the context, the vision. Maybe.
Do you think that the words we use on our journey (which in and of itself is a much debated word in the blog world) make a difference? Or the words we use for anything?