“I don’t have a weight problem – I have an eating problem.” When I saw this quote, my head started nodding of its own volition. Yes! That’s me.
I had actually reached a similar conclusion on my own already, just not found the same simple way to describe it. After all these many yo-yo years, here is what I finally know about myself – the journey is not about a goal weight.
Yes, there is a number in my head. But more importantly, my head is filled with the notion that my true goal this time is to conquer my eating. It doesn’t really matter what the scale says. (Much.) What matters is that I finally, once and for all, have control over food instead of food controlling me. Not only does that make more sense for what I am doing today, but it also makes sense as the way to put an end to the yo-yo.
Some of you may be saying to yourselves, “There goes Karen with semantics again.” True. It is all just words. But I honestly think if you look behind the words there is a very different meaning. It truly is about the eating, or behaviors, or maybe even the emotions, but not the weight. Think about it.
And then consider this – if this journey for you is also about anything other than a quest for the magic number on the scale, then what is your goal? Yes, there is a certain number I want to weigh. But if I stay at the that number despite eating poorly, what have I really accomplished? The old me would have been very happy to reach a number. The old me would have been very happy to stay at that number. But the old me was very unhappy because over time I did not stay there and the new me knows it is not about a number.
And for those of you who are already living the healthy lifestyle, was that always the aim for you? Or did you start with a different intention that evolved over time?
And as I sit and write this, I realize that hitting the number is easier for me than this other, true objective. (Not EASY, mind you, just easiER.) After all, I have done that over and over again. But through it all, I have never developed a long-term healthy relationship with food. That’s what I’m shooting for this time. And I believe that if I have that relationship and control, then the scale will fall into place.
What’s your problem?