Come All Ye Faithful Dieters and Analogy Lovers

Another Waisting Time analogy:  how an interfaith marriage is like dieting, by a woman who has years of experience with both:)

People will give you advice.  Sometimes you may ask for it; sometimes it is unsolicited.  Some is helpful; much is not.  You have to learn how to handle the advice, both getting it and then applying or ignoring it.

There will be naysayers.  Prove them wrong.

What other people think (mostly) doesn’t matter.

Balance is key.  But you have to figure out what balance looks like for you, what will work, what won’t work, what might upset a delicate apple cart.

People are biased about all sorts of things.  Some comes from ignorance, some comes from deeply ingrained beliefs, some comes from societal messages.  You’ll have to choose how to handle the bias, either addressing or ignoring it.

Evolution is good.  (No pun intended, nor a statement about the theory of creationism.)  Be flexible, make changes as they are called for, adapt, remember that nothing is carved in stone and change can be good.

Holidays can be hard.  Plan ahead.  And find a way to celebrate that works for you.  Choose traditions and make your own.

Children can complicate things.  They are little sponges, picking up things when we don’t even know it.  We are their role models.  We have the chance to write on their lives and impact how they view things.  But eventually they have their own voice, and their own ideas, and their own lives to live, and their own choices to make.

Family dynamics are complicated.  In a perfect world, we will feel unconditional love, acceptance, and support.  The world is not perfect.  But neither are we.

Be patient.  With yourself, with others, with everything.

Be open to new ideas.  Find new ways to do things.  Think outside the box.

Compromise when it’s needed.

You are not alone but it always comes down to you.  Your actions, your emotions, your beliefs, your baggage.

Your significant other may be your best helpmate and partner or your biggest obstacle.  Remember you love him/her and (s)he is not a mind reader.

Surround yourself with support.  Ask for help if you need it.  Finding others going through the same experience can be helpful and comforting even if your journeys are different.

Define your own life.  Write your own rules.  Live with your choices or make new ones.

Have faith in yourself.

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35 responses to “Come All Ye Faithful Dieters and Analogy Lovers

  1. Excellent post! You are, indeed, a wise woman! Thank you for supporting and encouraging me along this journey! ❤

  2. All excellent advice! I need to keep that patience one in mind today. And tomorrow. Possibly the day after that. 🙂

  3. Believe in yourself is what I get from this, have the courage to believe and you can achieve what you desire. It may not be easy at times, but patience, compromise and planning will ease the way.

    Well written!

  4. I needed something this concise and pointed this morning. It’s already printed and on my fridge! Had to move the grocery list to put it up, so I’ll blame you when Mr. B doesn’t get something he put on the list! LOL!

    Can I add something to the “people can be biased about all sorts of things?” Some are biased by their refusal to see circumstances through anyone’s eyes but their own.

    • Karen

      Yes. That’s a good addition, Sharon. I actually had a whole list there but cut it out since the post was long enough already!

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  6. A testament to wisdom tempered with flexibility. There are no absolutes when it comes to nuggets of truth. All apply at some times but not others. Great read today.

  7. Karen, what an awesome post!!! And I understand the interfaith marriage although me & hubby are not really religious…

    I loved all of this but especially how you ended: Define your own life. Write your own rules. Live with your choices or make new ones.

    Have faith in yourself

    Thx Karen!

    • Karen

      We are not religious either, which I think makes it much easier. Actually, most of the issues we’ve had over the years came from others.

  8. Great advice. I’m working A LOT on balance, and it’s something that I think that I will always be working on!

  9. I loved your post–so much truth and wisdom. Thanks for sharing.

  10. sunnydaze

    I love this post and it was exactly what I needed today since I’m trying to carve out a new life for myself. I especially love this:

    “Define your own life. Write your own rules. Live with your choices or make new ones.”

    🙂

  11. Well said! I’ve learned how to bring both together with my boyfriend too – faith and eating better, most of the time. 🙂

  12. Love this, Karen! I love that you took two disparate topics and noticed that they had a lot in common! “Holidays can be hard” indeed! Great job & Happy 8th Day!

    • Karen

      It came to me months back while I was biking. I do a lot of great blog writing in my head while I am pedaling away… most of which I forget by the time I get to my keyboard.

  13. Great post!I write my own rules for sure!

  14. I don’t get a lot of advice from other people. I hope it’s because they know if I wanted it I’d ask for it, but I’m also excellent at diverting people when they start talking about something I don’t want to discuss.

  15. Thank you Karen, for this particular post. I love the part where it still all comes down to you. Very true. Support is needed and relied upon but when I’m home alone in my kitchen, there’s no one there to tap my shoulder and say, ‘Um, NO!’ Great post.

  16. You really are wise, and you have a way of saying incredibly deep and true and important things and making them sound light and simple.
    I like that.

  17. All I ever needed to know I learned from my blog friend, Karen!

    Good analogy, thought-provoking post… I agree with Teresa just above.

    Thanks (as always!)

    Oh, if you care to say, I’m curious about which are the faiths and which of you is which. (Is that enough whiches?_

    • Karen

      Funny you should ask – I had a little background paragraph in an earlier version of the post and decided to take it out. I was raised Jewish. My husband was raised some sort of Independent Christian. Neither of us is religious and that makes this easier.

  18. lol girl your post put a smile on my face and gave me a chuckle (technically I’m also in an interfaith marriage but neither of us practicing in the sense we don’t attend Church/Mosque).

    • Karen

      We don’t attend either. Makes it easier. Have you thought about what you’ll do if/when you have kids? I was serious about that adding a complication.

  19. So much of that advice is useful for so many situations. Great stuff. 🙂

  20. excellent post, Karen! totally know what you mean: holidays ARE hard and i’m definitely feeling it right now as i stay at my in-laws who eat TOTALLY different than i do. you want to be polite, but you also want to eat healthy so…what do you do??? :p

    • Karen

      My problem will soon be the opposite – having guests here and needing to feed them. It is easier for me to stay on track when there are no changes in my routine.

  21. Biz

    Great post Karen! Especially the first part:

    People will give you advice. Sometimes you may ask for it; sometimes it is unsolicited. Some is helpful; much is not. You have to learn how to handle the advice, both getting it and then applying or ignoring it.

    I had a co-worker tell me that I couldn’t eat a piece of cake or salt my food – I was like who do you think you are telling me that?!

  22. I agree with your analogy and especially agree that living your own rules and defining your own life is key to both enterprises

  23. anne h

    Wonderful and very well-written!
    Refreshing, even!

  24. LOVE THIS.

    sign,
    a woman married to a raised methodist kindasort jewbychoice now most of the time but not always.

  25. I could really relate to this well-written post, being that I’m in an inter-cultural relationship.

    Stopping by from the Lady Bloggers Tea Party.

  26. Saw your profile on the Lady Bloggers page. Absolutely love the layout of your website and particularly enjoyed reading this post.

  27. WOW! This was really good. Thought-provoking and I’ll have to go back and read it a few times to get all the meat out of it!!

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