Another Waisting Time analogy: how an interfaith marriage is like dieting, by a woman who has years of experience with both:)
People will give you advice. Sometimes you may ask for it; sometimes it is unsolicited. Some is helpful; much is not. You have to learn how to handle the advice, both getting it and then applying or ignoring it.
There will be naysayers. Prove them wrong.
What other people think (mostly) doesn’t matter.
Balance is key. But you have to figure out what balance looks like for you, what will work, what won’t work, what might upset a delicate apple cart.
People are biased about all sorts of things. Some comes from ignorance, some comes from deeply ingrained beliefs, some comes from societal messages. You’ll have to choose how to handle the bias, either addressing or ignoring it.
Evolution is good. (No pun intended, nor a statement about the theory of creationism.) Be flexible, make changes as they are called for, adapt, remember that nothing is carved in stone and change can be good.
Holidays can be hard. Plan ahead. And find a way to celebrate that works for you. Choose traditions and make your own.
Children can complicate things. They are little sponges, picking up things when we don’t even know it. We are their role models. We have the chance to write on their lives and impact how they view things. But eventually they have their own voice, and their own ideas, and their own lives to live, and their own choices to make.
Family dynamics are complicated. In a perfect world, we will feel unconditional love, acceptance, and support. The world is not perfect. But neither are we.
Be patient. With yourself, with others, with everything.
Be open to new ideas. Find new ways to do things. Think outside the box.
Compromise when it’s needed.
You are not alone but it always comes down to you. Your actions, your emotions, your beliefs, your baggage.
Your significant other may be your best helpmate and partner or your biggest obstacle. Remember you love him/her and (s)he is not a mind reader.
Surround yourself with support. Ask for help if you need it. Finding others going through the same experience can be helpful and comforting even if your journeys are different.
Define your own life. Write your own rules. Live with your choices or make new ones.
Have faith in yourself.