My husband is off on a hiking vacation with an old friend. For just over a week, it will be my teen and me, home alone. The place just won’t feel the same!
Five years ago when my husband left corporate America, it was quite an adjustment for me to have him home all day, every day. I missed the quiet hours when he was at work and the boys were in school and the house was temporarily picked up and clean. I missed having the place to myself. Suddenly, there was another presence in the house all day, disturbing my quiet and neatness. Disturbing my routine. In that first year of having my husband home, there was a lot going on: thinking through the future, considering starting a business, worrying about money, changes and adjustments and uncertainty. It is no coincidence that I hit my highest weight back then. Stress eating at it’s best, or worst.
But over the ensuing years, my husband and I slowly started to figure out how to spend our days coexisting in the same space 24/7. Some things we talked out; some things just evolved. Some things required adjustment on one or both our parts, or compromise. We bought a second computer:) And eventually, I got used to having him around all the time. And unexpectedly, in some ways grew to depend on him more.
Once upon a time I used to relish the rare occasions when my husband left town and I had the house and bed to myself. (Some people, who shall go unnamed, snore.) But I know I am going to miss him. And not just because he won’t be here to take out the trash or ride bikes with me or grill our dinner or bring in the morning newspaper or stay up late waiting for our teen to come home. Or to fix the technology that just went on the fritz. But I will miss having him around. Will it be TOO quiet now without him? Will I start talking to myself? Will our shared office echo in his absence?
Your turn. Do you like being alone at home? Do you do things differently when no one else is around?