I rarely tell anyone (other than hubby and all of you, of course) that I am “dieting.” I don’t want to get into discussions or drama, or have them assessing my pant size, or worry that they are judging everything I put into my mouth… or don’t put into my mouth. So it was quite a change for me recently to spend several days eating in the company of someone who clearly was paying attention!
My sister-in-law is one of the few people in my real life who knows about and reads my blog. (I told her about it in the early days when I turned to her for blogging advice.) Having been to the spa together several times, she has seen me naked and at my uncoordinated worst. (Totally unrelated!) And now, thanks to my blog and some conversations that it prompted, she knows more about my eating “issues” than I had ever intended a family member to know!
This past weekend hubby and I stayed overnight at her (and my brother’s) house. We arrived at dinner time and SIL had planned ahead to make something for us. I was looking forward to it; she is a great cook. What I did not expect, was for her to so carefully consider what I might want. She wrote in advance of our visit: “I’m going to make something appropriate for Karen. I’m thinking spa type food. Yum. Yum.”
And yummy was right! The all-homemade menu was: black bean soup, spicy shrimp, cucumber salad, and the most delicious chunky salsa. Almost all the vegetables were from her own garden. She also made rice for my brother who eats no veggies, telling me, “That’s not for you.” I guess she has been following my blog more closely than I thought!
Saturday morning, our hosts took us on a great walk to a breakfast place, which I approached with some trepidation since I had intended to at least start my day out on plan. (I even packed my own high fiber cereal!) SIL was still thinking of me and pointed out a menu item she thought would fit the bill. I soooo wanted pancakes instead, but she was right and I went with her suggestion and had a great plate of eggs with beans and peppers. And so much water (challenge goal number 3) that I walked very quickly back to the house, if you catch my meaning.
Later that evening, after I had overindulged at a day-long food-filled social event, I finally was feeling hunger again. Since my brother and SIL had recently moved to a new house I had no idea where the food was hiding. I asked for crackers or cereal or something. Of course I wanted carbs! My SIL pointed me in the right direction but also listed off all the other healthy non-grain options, like veggies and fruit. Had I not been eating crap all day, I may just have gone with her suggestions. But instead, I returned to my spot on the couch with a bowl of Kashi cereal as a chaser to the leftover shrimp that was even better cold the second day.
My SIL is one of the most laid-back and non-judgmental people I know. But I have to admit that it was a bit disconcerting to know that someone was paying that close attention to my eating. But I also appreciated her caring enough to want to help me stick to my plan. And, just in case she is reading today’s post, I’ll go on record and tell you all just how much I like her and enjoy her company:) We have very little in common, are more dissimilar than alike, but somehow that really works for us. Good thing she is so tolerant of all my quirks!
Does anyone in your life pay attention to your eating? Is it a good thing or a bad thing when others are aware of your healthy living goals?