I told my husband that if we had met in high school we would never have dated, let alone married. I was shy and quiet. He was a big man on campus. I had a small group of friends but didn’t fit in with any clique; I went to school dances with my girlfriends and never got asked to dance. My husband was captain of both the football and basketball teams, president of his class, graduation speaker, prom prince one year and prom king the next.
But years later our eyes met across a not-so-crowded U-shaped classroom in graduate school. Hubby sat on one side across from where I sat on the other; week in and week out. I thought he must be obnoxious because the guy sitting next to him was overly so. Hubby says he was intrigued by my “disconcerning” air. (No, that is not an actual word. But after hearing him tell the story time many times, it has become part of the vernacular of our courtship.)
It wasn’t until the next semester that my husband and I had our first official date. There were several missteps leading up to it. Hubby tried to get to know me by suggesting we work on our research papers together; I thought he was just one more guy only interested in cheating off of me. I planned a night out with a group from school so that I could casually invite hubby along; he had other plans that could not be changed. But finally, the stars aligned (Halley’s Comet, actually), and we had our first date scheduled. But why wait? Hubby invited me out for the night before the date as well. One night, then the next, then the next. And we’ve been together ever since. Twenty-three years of marital compromise bliss.
The prom king and the wallflower left their former lives behind and made one together, along with their sons, in a kingdom known as Suburbia. Where life is filled with minivans and mortgages. And where, on prom night, it is the next generation posing in his tux with his date, as the proud parents look on and marvel at the passage of time. And the life they have made together. A life in which they all lived happily ever after.
Happy anniversary dear husband<3