How many times have I thought those words to myself during my yo-yo years. Shoulda, woulda, coulda.
I shoulda never gone off my diet _________ (insert date here); I woulda been thin today and I coulda had this weight thing conquered already. I shoulda not gone off my diet the time before that. And the year before that. And the time before that…
I shoulda started eating healthier years ago. I woulda been happier and healthier and I coulda avoided a lot of emotional anguish.
I shoulda fed my boys differently when they were little and I coulda still made a difference in their lives. I woulda not been kicking myself that they don’t eat well and I coulda had an easier time planning healthy meals for us all. I shoulda experimented more with vegetable recipes and preparation. I shoulda included them in meals on a regular basis.
I shoulda joined a gym sooner.
I shoulda started yoga years ago. I woulda been much more flexible now.
I shoulda not had that cookie, that piece of cake, that brownie, that “whatever.” I shoulda stopped at one. I shoulda stopped after one day of binging. I shoulda.
I shoulda not jumped off the chair lift. I woulda not broken a bone and had months of shoulder recovery. I coulda been lifting weights and doing yoga instead of physical therapy. I coulda saved thousands of dollars in medical bills.
I shoulda figured out an alternative to eating when I am bored. I woulda been less likely to eat if I had something else to occupy my time. I coulda kept from gaining as much weight.
I shoulda kept going to Weight Watchers after I reached my goal weight years ago. I woulda not gained back what I lost. I coulda avoided all the subsequent dieting ups and downs.
I shoulda buckled down and stayed on track last month. I shoulda met my Spring Challenge goal every week. I coulda seen a lower number on the scale today. I woulda had a little cushion going into some weekends away coming up.
I shoulda started my blog long ago. I woulda found this outlet and community sooner. I coulda used the support and friendship and motivation:)
The reality is there are many little shoulda, woulda, couldas in my past. I used to think about them often. But the past is over. No sense kicking myself over it. Hindsight is 20/20 but doesn’t do anything for me going forward. The only reason to look back is if I am truly using it to learn from my mistakes and to discover what I should, would, could do differently now in my life. I shall, I will, and I can. Sometimes it is easier said than done, but I SHALL work on it because I WILL accomplish things if I set my mind to them and I CAN do this!
What about you? Shoulda, woulda, coulda? Shall, will, can?